Paella wasn’t the queen’s daughter though? She was a concubines daughter but threw in her lot with the queen. You can love your children and still have them end up being terrible people. How many serial killers were raised by an average family that loved them? Dozens if not hundreds I’m sure. And the one that was spoiled was not Hopelessly so. Since in the end she showed wisdom and didn’t blame Aristine for her family’s bad acts. Nephter was put in a bad position of needing the queen and her family but not actually liking either.